Melissa Blundell Osorio, founder of Night School and the upcoming Sexposé, an event that explores human sexuality, talks with Maximüs Groves and Evan Fowler about the event, the culture of Miami, her Night School program, and sex and relationships in general.
Lovingly referred to as TedXXX, Sexposé features speakers who dive into the history, psychology, and cultural impact of human sexuality. Come learn why virginity doesn’t exist, how sexual imagery is used in advertising, and the history and economics of sex work, among other topics. Sexposé is taking place in Miami on Saturday, October 24th. You can find more information online at http://getnightschooled.com/sexpose.
EF: So you don’t have to become a sex worker?
MBO: Not if you don’t want to. [3:45] MBO: I feel like South Beach is like the sex capital of the world. Where else are you gonna do this event? [4:00] EF: South Beach… It’s a strange place… It’s like every unusual person on the eastern seaboard just falls south. [5:20] MG: Is there a culture to Miami that maybe needs more conversation about sex?
MBO: I think so… not specifically about sex, but more intellectual conversation. [5:55] MBO: Miami’s reputation is being a party destination…
MG: All the Caribbean drugs come through Miami…
MBO: Exactly, but there’s also people here who are intelligent and looking for like minded people. [6:40] MBO: I started a discussion group that meets once a month in a coffee house.
EF: What kind of things do you talk about?
MBO: Everything. Sociopolitical, existential, death, sex workers rights, healthcare, happiness, art, protests, last night we had one on tinder and relationships. [7:45] MG: What’s your take on Tinder’s effect on relationships?
MBO: I don’t think it’s positive or negative. I think it’s a tool. [8:20] MBO: There are people who’ve met on Tinder and gotten married.
MG: Should Tinder users be open to marriage when using the app?
EF: I would give the exact opposite advice. [8:40] MBO: I have a friend who says if he happens to marry someone he meets through Tinder, he’ll be able to say he met his wife while on the toilet.
MG: It was love at first sight.
MBO: At first swipe. [10:10] MG: I guess Evan’s question is which is the sexiest bagel.
MBO: Oooo, the everything bagel. [10:25] MBO: I’d love for someone to explore subliminal sexual images in advertising… and the research says it isn’t really effective. [12:45] MBO: Under Night School we do the round table discussions and Sexposé, and also life hacking classes. [14.40] EF: History of the condom, was that sheep intestines? That’s ghoulish. [15.25] MBO: I’ve considered maybe having another speaker that’s more of a sex educator that can teach something people can use.
MG: I’ve intended a new position. Can we get a volunteer from the audience?
EF: Oh, they do that. [16:00] EF: We do stand-up at the fetish convention (Frolicon) and it’s amazing how instructive it is, it’s really classes on all these incredibly niche sex things.
MBO: I always feel like these people are the most open minded and accepting. The nicest people you’ll ever meet. They’ll beat the shit out of you if you ask them to, but only because you asked them to.
EF: They have a good understanding of the thin ice thing, if you yourself are into an unusual thing, you don’t have a lot of ground to stand on to say, “That’s weird.”
MBO: Whatever tickles your pickle. [17:10] EF: My favorite thing at a fetish convention is the puppy play… it’s the fucking most adorable thing I’ve ever seen.
MBO: There’s puppy competitions also.
EF: That’s a pretty subjective competition. [17:50] EF: Anything that opens people up to looking foolish but having fun and being childlike has got to be positive. [18:30] EF: It’s weird for a culture that’s so obsessed by sex to be so afraid of it. [19:35] MBO: Maybe at this event, talking about human sexuality is a little safer, because you aren’t talking about any one person’s tastes, it’s about looking at something from a more objective or academic perspective. [25:00] EF: I bet Oscar Wilde was insufferable to talk to. Ben Franklin too. Imagine talking to someone who speaks in nothing but clever quotes. [29:05] MG: It’s not just going to be tit implants and cocaine, it’s going to be real feelings…
MBO: There’s substance for sure. [29:10] MBO: I’m really fascinated by human behavior in general, that’s my favorite subject. [29:50] MBO: Night School, a lot of the classes are based on different areas of psychology. And Sexposé, I feel like so much of what we do is in some way driven by sex… [30:35] MBO: I like how the brain is wired, why we do the things we do, why that is.
EF: Do you think everything starts childhood?
MBO: The things I find most interesting are the ones have to do with evolution, like why we like the foods we like.
MG: Of course you think sex is at the core everything… Darwin basically said if you have the most sex you contribute the most to society. [31:20] MG: Evolution puts sex at the core of everything that makes life itself.
EF: Is that why every asshole piece of shit dickhead guy I’ve known in my life ends up with a nice wife that seems very miserable after a while? [31:40] MBO: In NY in November, I’m presenting at Nerd Night on evolutionary psychology and why we’re attracted to the things we’re attracted to. [32:55] MBO: Nature for sure plays a part, and nurture plays another part. [34:35] MG: Does this mean that we shouldn’t be judgmental of shallow behavior? That people are just following their biology?
MBO: It’s not that we have no control over these things; they’re just nudges in certain directions. We’re predisposed to like foods high in fat or sugar, but it doesn’t mean we’re incapable of turning down a piece of cake or a cheeseburger.
EF: It’s like meeting Colin Farrell in a bar.
MBO: That’s actually a great example. [39:30] EF: I heard the other day that Konami was taken over by the Yakuza, and that’s why all that shit is going down. [41:05] MBO: Interacting with people, actually face to face, is so important, it’s one of the most vital things for our overall health and happiness, to have a life we enjoy. I do think overall we are a lot more isolated, so I like things that bring people together. [50:40] EF: It’s South Beach: you got a lot a bros down there, you gotta tell ’em, they need to learn.
MG: Is this going to help the South Beach bro?
MBO: I’m not sure the South Beach bro wants to go to this event to be honest. I think he might be out of his element.
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